We were talking about belief and how our beliefs can affect our ability to make long lasting change in our lives. When he said the following phrase:
“…but it’s only difficult for who you are now.
For the person you will become,
it won’t be difficult at all.”
How great is this sentence? I think we could all do well to repeat this to ourselves daily. I asked him if I could use it for my belief article, and then I thought better of it…let’s tell the entire speech. So here you are, sit back and soak up these wise words.
“One of the things I do at the start of all my courses
is tell my students to think of the course like thinking of a physical training program (weight lifting or running). Suppose, I say, your goal is to run a 10k run in four months, but you can’t even run down the block now. Or suppose that you want to be able to do a shoulder press with fifty-pound weights in four months, but right now you can only do it with five-pound weights and you can barely lift ten-pound weights.
These things are possible to achieve in four months’ time. If you go through a training program and are able to reach your goals by the end, you’ll be able to look back down the mountain when it’s all over and say:
‘Wow, I started out that far down and look where I am now!’
Ideally, you’ll be able to do that at several points: each month, you should be able to look back to where you were the previous month and be impressed with how far you’ve come. If you can’t do that — if at the end you’re exactly where you were at the start — then that’s a sign that it didn’t work. If you haven’t progressed in a month, then something went wrong. You didn’t commit enough or your guide didn’t find a way to climb the mountain — maybe both.
So my promise (I tell them) is this: I have worked out a path that you will be able to follow with me to the top of the mountain. There are some things you’ll be able to do at the end that you just can’t do now: here they are (and I set them out plainly). The mountain is high, but my path will allow you to get there a little at a time. If you need to go slower at some points, there are other paths for those times. And if you’re committed to it, you’ll see each month that you’re far in advance of what you could do the month before. That’ll be proof of your progress, and I make the promise to you now that you can make it if you follow my plan.
However, there’s a flipside to that. Logically speaking, if there’s something you’ll be able to do a month from now that you can’t do today, that same something must be out of your range today. And the things you’ll be able to do at the very end are way out of your range today. That comes with the course being a worthwhile one for you, but some people can find it scary.
They say, ‘I can’t do that!’
And they’re completely right:
If they could already do it, there would be no point in their taking the course!
Think of it this way (I tell them): if you can only shoulder-press with five-pound dumbbells and can barely lift the ten-pound ones out of the rack, then of course you can’t shoulder-press the fifty-pound ones. You might resolve to do it anyway, but you’d fail. You just can’t do it. That’s why you’re training toward that goal.
So: if there’s something you want to be able to do and already can do, then any training program designed to get you there is a waste of time and will only take you in a circle. So any reasonable goal must be something you can’t do yet.
And that means that any reasonable goal you have must be something that’s impossible for you to do!
Still, the situation isn’t hopeless. There’s one — and only one — reasonable way to see your training: your training takes something that’s currently impossible for you to do and makes it possible by changing you from someone who can’t into someone who can. So today, you can say ‘I can’t do this — but I can transform myself into someone who can.’ And that’s the key to training: transforming yourself into someone with more powers than you have today.
This is literal transformation: mentally or physically, you’ll be a different person with different abilities. You’ll even have different desires and values: things you find frustrating now won’t be to your future self, and things you find tempting now will be less so.
Genuine self-transformation can be very difficult in the short term,
but it’s only difficult for who you are now.
For the person you will become,
it won’t be difficult at all.
Today, you say to yourself “Living by this routine is so difficult — when will I be able to do the things that I want?” But perhaps you’re only thinking of what the present version of you wants: not the future you. If your self-transformation is to be successful, the routine will not remain difficult. You’ll miss it if you don’t follow it.
So instead of saying: “This is difficult for me,”
say: “This is difficult for me now,
but I’m transforming myself into a person for whom it isn’t difficult.”
Love my cousin xo
I just finished reading your recent post in your belief article titled “Genuine Transformaion” with your cousin Justin’s talk he gives his students at the beginning of his classes. It would help so many students if more teachers borrowed his approach.
As a gliding instructor, I could relate to this article immediately because before a student can really fly solo there is so much for them to learn and at times it gets frustrating or as you said overwhelming because of both the written and practical aspects (or paths) one has to accomplish in order to get their license (reach the top of the mountain) (and still it is just a licence as we continue to learn during the various different situations one encounters) (like other mountains or peaks to climb). This affirmation is brilliant and if instilled at a young age when children say “I can’t” or “This is difficult for me”…and instead say “I can’t do this now, but I will when I grow up” (or as quoted by Justin in your article “This is difficult for me now, but I’m transforming myself into a person for whom it isn’t difficult”. I believe we would have a more positive society and incredibly happier people.
People just need to be able to plan their own realistic goals…or have someone whom they can follow as a guide to assist/lead the way.
Thank you “You As A Machine” for helping to do just that…one transforming stage at a time.
All the best for a great year to all.
Thanks for your comment, Lorraine!
I think you hit the nail on the head. A big part of the discontent in society is setting unrealistic goals or not setting goals at all (or not knowing HOW to set goals). All too often I have discussions with people who want the licence without the learning, the playing of an instrument without the study, etc.
This is amazing!!! Changed my world tonight. Thank you for sharing!
You are right Crista, it is. I am so glad that it resonated with you. I’m sure Justin will be pleased to read your comment.